Spring is a great time to focus on well being and self-care. What have you done for yourself over the winter? (Besides loving every minute of those comfort foods!) Well being means supporting yourself physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It's time to release old energy and make space for new ideas. Spring is about rebirth. Are you ready to give a little time to yourself to create new awareness and balance in your life?
Your day is busy. You have a family to take care of, your job seems to need you 24/7, you have a house that needs your attention, not to mention after-school activities and errands. It doesn't seem like there is time for anything extra! Let's work on creating a few well deserved minutes for you!
It doesn't take much to get going...small steps! First ask yourself, "what is the minimum time I can take for me?" Even 15 minutes is a start! Next ask yourself, "how do I want to feel?" and "what do I want to get from this time?". Also, don't forget to give yourself permission, you are worth it!
If you're having trouble getting started, here are a few suggestions.
· Take a walk or a run.
· Use a soothing face-mask and listen to calming music.
· Read a little of your favorite book.
· Meditate.
· Sit on your deck and "watch nature".
· Draw, paint, or create in some way.
Creating a little time for yourself will help balance your energy and lift your spirits. You will feel calm and ready to take on whatever lies ahead of you.
Wednesday, May 7, 2008
Improving Your Self
Let's face it, we all need Self Confidence to cope with the trials of modern life, but what many people don't realise is the extent to which our lives are governed by this simple attribute of personality. Self-confident people are winners: things go right for them; people like them; and they get the results they want more often than not.
Now wouldn't you like to have more of that kind of quality in your life? Well - you can! If you are not a self-confident person, you can become one; and it's easier than you might think. But before we can walk through the 'door' to unlimited self-confidence, we need to first discover exactly what a confident person is; then we can look at how to acquire it.
First of all, a self-confident person is someone who believes they are confident. Their lives exude confidence because they are simply being true to that unshakeable inner belief. Conversely, a person without confidence is someone who does not have that belief; and is equally acting out the consequences of their inner thoughts. Same process - different results!
Here we have the key to acquiring that confidence: we must change our beliefs about who and what we are. Once we have done that, the rest - the unshakeable self confidence we seek - will follow quite naturally. So the question really becomes one about how we can go about the business of changing our beliefs about who we are and what we are capable of achieving; and there are many ways to do that including self-hypnosis, NLP and the use of positive affirmations.
In this article, I want to take a look at the use of positive affirmations. Affirmations do work because they deal with changing the inner person first. The reason they work is because: if you choose to repeat a particular phrase over and over again (I recommend at least three times a day; and three repetitions each time - that's 9 time in total - minimum) then eventually your subconscious mind will accept that you are what you have been saying.
Once that acceptance has taken place for the inner person, the outer person will begin to experience the benefits. The good news is that you don't even have to believe in the process; you just need to engage in the discipline of doing the repetitions each and every day until you produce the results you want.
Affirmations for Self-Confidence and Self-Belief:
- I AM Growing in Confidence Each and Every Day
- I AM Receiving All the Self-Confidence I Need
- I AM Brimming with Confidence
So try the above affirmations, repeating each of them three times; and do this procedure three times per day. Try them for a period of one month and you will begin to see some excellent results!
Now wouldn't you like to have more of that kind of quality in your life? Well - you can! If you are not a self-confident person, you can become one; and it's easier than you might think. But before we can walk through the 'door' to unlimited self-confidence, we need to first discover exactly what a confident person is; then we can look at how to acquire it.
First of all, a self-confident person is someone who believes they are confident. Their lives exude confidence because they are simply being true to that unshakeable inner belief. Conversely, a person without confidence is someone who does not have that belief; and is equally acting out the consequences of their inner thoughts. Same process - different results!
Here we have the key to acquiring that confidence: we must change our beliefs about who and what we are. Once we have done that, the rest - the unshakeable self confidence we seek - will follow quite naturally. So the question really becomes one about how we can go about the business of changing our beliefs about who we are and what we are capable of achieving; and there are many ways to do that including self-hypnosis, NLP and the use of positive affirmations.
In this article, I want to take a look at the use of positive affirmations. Affirmations do work because they deal with changing the inner person first. The reason they work is because: if you choose to repeat a particular phrase over and over again (I recommend at least three times a day; and three repetitions each time - that's 9 time in total - minimum) then eventually your subconscious mind will accept that you are what you have been saying.
Once that acceptance has taken place for the inner person, the outer person will begin to experience the benefits. The good news is that you don't even have to believe in the process; you just need to engage in the discipline of doing the repetitions each and every day until you produce the results you want.
Affirmations for Self-Confidence and Self-Belief:
- I AM Growing in Confidence Each and Every Day
- I AM Receiving All the Self-Confidence I Need
- I AM Brimming with Confidence
So try the above affirmations, repeating each of them three times; and do this procedure three times per day. Try them for a period of one month and you will begin to see some excellent results!
Monday, March 31, 2008
Self help
self help
Self help books and programs were huge for a long time, but the trend seems to have quieted. There were so many different books out there, and so many different programs that people became overwhelmed. They needed help deciding what self help they really needed. This defeated the purpose, and most didn’t get much from the stuff they bought. This type of help is still out there, but it is not as loud as it once was. Someone who needs improvement can still find it, but the choices are better today than they were years ago.
The most commonly bought self help book would be the diet book. There are some many people trying to lose weight, and no one knows how to do it. There are a lot of options, and that is why this type of self help is something that should be considered carefully. It is best to look over diets and information before deciding which one will be right for you. The Atkins way of life has helped a lot of people lose, and it is a good eating plan, but most didn’t realize they had to do it for life for the weight to stay off. If you can’t do something forever, don’t start it.
Other popular types of self help are things that pertain to career. These are also very good sellers, and there are some books out there with great information. There are some that help with resume and presentation, and others that help someone move up the career ladder. This type of self help might not be as straight forward as other types, but might be more like guidelines that each person can apply to their career rather than step by step help types advice.
Sometimes self help is something that has to come from within. You can find information almost anywhere on any type of problem, but most of the time someone has to find out what is going on within themselves in order to figure out where to go next. There is often no way a book can help with a specific problems, and the self help that someone finds must come from themselves. When the problem is very personal, only a personal solution will help. A book or even a program may help to some extent, but most of the solution must come from the mind and the experience of the person involved.
Self help books and programs were huge for a long time, but the trend seems to have quieted. There were so many different books out there, and so many different programs that people became overwhelmed. They needed help deciding what self help they really needed. This defeated the purpose, and most didn’t get much from the stuff they bought. This type of help is still out there, but it is not as loud as it once was. Someone who needs improvement can still find it, but the choices are better today than they were years ago.
The most commonly bought self help book would be the diet book. There are some many people trying to lose weight, and no one knows how to do it. There are a lot of options, and that is why this type of self help is something that should be considered carefully. It is best to look over diets and information before deciding which one will be right for you. The Atkins way of life has helped a lot of people lose, and it is a good eating plan, but most didn’t realize they had to do it for life for the weight to stay off. If you can’t do something forever, don’t start it.
Other popular types of self help are things that pertain to career. These are also very good sellers, and there are some books out there with great information. There are some that help with resume and presentation, and others that help someone move up the career ladder. This type of self help might not be as straight forward as other types, but might be more like guidelines that each person can apply to their career rather than step by step help types advice.
Sometimes self help is something that has to come from within. You can find information almost anywhere on any type of problem, but most of the time someone has to find out what is going on within themselves in order to figure out where to go next. There is often no way a book can help with a specific problems, and the self help that someone finds must come from themselves. When the problem is very personal, only a personal solution will help. A book or even a program may help to some extent, but most of the solution must come from the mind and the experience of the person involved.
Improve Communication Skills
Improve Communication Skills
In almost any career you can think of, you are going to have to have good communications with your coworkers and your clients. Some people are born with the ability to speak their mind in an effective and beneficial manner, but others need help to improve communication skills on all levels. I know that I have a hard time with speaking to strangers at times, and when it comes time for me to interview someone, I am definitely nervous about it because I am afraid my skills are not up to par.
There are many ways to improve communication skills, and one of the simplest ways is to practice. The more you talk to people, the better you will get about talking and sharing ideas. Perhaps you should engage in a few debates with friends or even your spouse, just make sure they know that you are trying to improve communication skills for work, and not trying to pick fights all the time. They may have fun helping you sharpen your wit and your thought processes.
Another big problem many have is communicating to a large group of people. This might be otherwise known as stage fright or fear of public speaking. Some people have stated that they would actually rather be fired than to speak in front of a group. I can totally relate to that thought, though I am much more at ease with it than I used to be. It really depends on the topic and whom I am speaking to though, and there are certain scenarios that make my blood run cold. If you have this problem, you need to find some public speaking opportunities to help you improve communication skills. Small groups or even groups of children may be the best place to start.
If you want to really improve communication skills for you and your employees, you should consider getting outside help. There are people and programs designed for just this matter, and they are most effective in helping your business grow. Employees are more valuable when they improve communication skills, and it can only help boost not only their confidence, but the bottom line as well. Even those who think they are great public speakers might benefit from a brush up as well. There is always room for improvement, and most people will be scared of such courses before they begin, but will thank you once they are over.
In almost any career you can think of, you are going to have to have good communications with your coworkers and your clients. Some people are born with the ability to speak their mind in an effective and beneficial manner, but others need help to improve communication skills on all levels. I know that I have a hard time with speaking to strangers at times, and when it comes time for me to interview someone, I am definitely nervous about it because I am afraid my skills are not up to par.
There are many ways to improve communication skills, and one of the simplest ways is to practice. The more you talk to people, the better you will get about talking and sharing ideas. Perhaps you should engage in a few debates with friends or even your spouse, just make sure they know that you are trying to improve communication skills for work, and not trying to pick fights all the time. They may have fun helping you sharpen your wit and your thought processes.
Another big problem many have is communicating to a large group of people. This might be otherwise known as stage fright or fear of public speaking. Some people have stated that they would actually rather be fired than to speak in front of a group. I can totally relate to that thought, though I am much more at ease with it than I used to be. It really depends on the topic and whom I am speaking to though, and there are certain scenarios that make my blood run cold. If you have this problem, you need to find some public speaking opportunities to help you improve communication skills. Small groups or even groups of children may be the best place to start.
If you want to really improve communication skills for you and your employees, you should consider getting outside help. There are people and programs designed for just this matter, and they are most effective in helping your business grow. Employees are more valuable when they improve communication skills, and it can only help boost not only their confidence, but the bottom line as well. Even those who think they are great public speakers might benefit from a brush up as well. There is always room for improvement, and most people will be scared of such courses before they begin, but will thank you once they are over.
Friday, March 14, 2008
Essential Personal Development Criteria's For work Environment
When we are at work and we become familiar with our job role, it is very easy to become complacent and stuck in a rut as we do the same job every day. But in the long term this can spell disaster for us.
The more versatile a worker we can become, the more protected we are, as we can more easily move between job roles as and when required. Acquiring a much wider knowledge base is also useful in giving us a greater understanding of the job we are currently doing.
Personal development in the workplace is also essential if we are to remain interested and passionate about the work we do. If we continue to do the same job day in, day out, we become less likely to do it well.
Think about the interests you have in your job, and ask yourself some questions to determine how you could invest in your own personal development:
# What brought you to the job in the first place?
# What skills do you have that you enjoy making use of?
# Could you further these skills in any way?
# Are there any training courses you could attend that would open the way for promotion further down the line?
# Is there anything you don't like doing any more that you would stop doing if you could?
The answers to these questions will help you to decide which areas of your working life are ripe for development. Although the term "personal development" makes us think of something we need to do, we can ask for the help of others to help us progress. Sometimes speaking to our manager will open the door to further possibilities for us to stretch ourselves in our chosen career, so don't be afraid to highlight any concerns or needs you may have. A willingness to learn and to take a pro-active approach to our own development is usually seen as a positive.
SECONDMENTS
Personal development is often associated with a complete change of job - leaving what we are doing now to take on a higher paid role with more responsibility.
But you don't need to take such a big leap in order to test the boundaries of what you may enjoy doing at work. Attending in-house or external training courses is one obvious way of expanding your knowledge and skills base. However a temporary secondment to another area within the company you work in now would also allow you to see whether another department or area of working would be suited to you.
There are plenty of ways to invest in your personal development at work. Perhaps the most important thing to remember is that you should constantly be looking for them - and making the most of these opportunities when they arise.
The more versatile a worker we can become, the more protected we are, as we can more easily move between job roles as and when required. Acquiring a much wider knowledge base is also useful in giving us a greater understanding of the job we are currently doing.
Personal development in the workplace is also essential if we are to remain interested and passionate about the work we do. If we continue to do the same job day in, day out, we become less likely to do it well.
Think about the interests you have in your job, and ask yourself some questions to determine how you could invest in your own personal development:
# What brought you to the job in the first place?
# What skills do you have that you enjoy making use of?
# Could you further these skills in any way?
# Are there any training courses you could attend that would open the way for promotion further down the line?
# Is there anything you don't like doing any more that you would stop doing if you could?
The answers to these questions will help you to decide which areas of your working life are ripe for development. Although the term "personal development" makes us think of something we need to do, we can ask for the help of others to help us progress. Sometimes speaking to our manager will open the door to further possibilities for us to stretch ourselves in our chosen career, so don't be afraid to highlight any concerns or needs you may have. A willingness to learn and to take a pro-active approach to our own development is usually seen as a positive.
SECONDMENTS
Personal development is often associated with a complete change of job - leaving what we are doing now to take on a higher paid role with more responsibility.
But you don't need to take such a big leap in order to test the boundaries of what you may enjoy doing at work. Attending in-house or external training courses is one obvious way of expanding your knowledge and skills base. However a temporary secondment to another area within the company you work in now would also allow you to see whether another department or area of working would be suited to you.
There are plenty of ways to invest in your personal development at work. Perhaps the most important thing to remember is that you should constantly be looking for them - and making the most of these opportunities when they arise.
Importance Of Personal Development In A Life
In order to find the answer to the question; why is personal development important, you must first find out what it means to you. Personal development is a way of life; you can't know everything so if you embark on learning new things to broaden your horizons then this is personal development.
The best way in my opinion, to develop you, would be to learn the laws of success and prosperity. I am usually in heavy debate about the educational system and how it fits into to society. It creates people who believe that the only way to make it in life would be to follow a path that was predetermined by those who were or never will be truly wealthy in life.
Let's take a closer look at this. We go to school and we're told that we have to learn in order to get a good 9-5 job. We then go to work and realize that all of our time is spent between working, sleeping and coping with the stress of never feeling successful. My friends if this is the way the scholars have determined success to be then we have all failed at life.
How can we go to work and get paid while the government makes more money out of our income than we do, I find this simply comical and this is what we're forced to accept.
Do you think you need to ask; why is personal development important, because clearly we need to develop a new way of thinking. We don't need to become more educated to have a fulfilling life.
I know by saying that I may stir up some trouble but I don't care because it true. The most successful people who have ever lived and have achieved success higher than Mount Everest were not educated, most of which were high school drop outs.
I'm not bashing education but I'm bashing the educational system. I'm surely not saying that you should not get educated but I'm saying that the educational system doesn't hold the secret to success but you can become a successful tax payer. The more you earn for the time spent working the more taxes you must pay the government.
You need to develop the success traits of the wealthy and 99% of them will tell you it has to do with developing the power from within you and not cramming more words into your brain from text books.
If you learn how to control this power then you will surely find a way to be truly successful. Now sit down and ask yourself the question; why is personal development important to you?
Do you think you have an answer now? Do you think that you need to find ways to build multiple income streams to reach financial freedom; I'll tell you a secret, if you want to become really successful find ways to give true value to others. Find a way to help people enrich their lives and you will reach financial freedom at an astonishing rate.
Want to know how true this is? Look around you right now. Look at all the marvelous inventions around you today like the television, radio, light bulb, computer, cellular phones and I can go on forever.
These things ad value to your lives and if you get in touch with your inner genius through personal development, then you will realize how you to can add value to other peoples lives too.
I hope you can now answer the question; why is personal development important. Realize that if you don't seriously embark on developing yourself then you will be hindered by the way society have developed a strategy to keep you under it clutches as an employee and not an employer of success.
Meditate on what I've just said. The persons who may own the businesses for which you work are employers of success strategies. They're successful because they have embarked on learning the laws of success and millionaire mindset.
You are the employee of this success because their businesses run on autopilot through your efforts not theirs. While you're making your way to work they're making their way to the gym. Are you getting the bigger picture now?
It's time you become the employer of success and not the employee. That time is now. Never again should you ask the question; why is personal development important. It holds the answer to changing you entire life. Learn to develop the millionaire mindset today.
After I wrote this article I did some research to find a product or information that can help you unlock the power from within so you can live a more fulfilling life. I did find a very inexpensive but valuable product from an author by the name of Tony Mase.
Now let me tell you, his course is for a minor $49.00 but for a very limited time only.
Access to this powerful information for such a cheap price is totally outrageous. Get in on this course now and learn how you can become an employer of success.
The best way in my opinion, to develop you, would be to learn the laws of success and prosperity. I am usually in heavy debate about the educational system and how it fits into to society. It creates people who believe that the only way to make it in life would be to follow a path that was predetermined by those who were or never will be truly wealthy in life.
Let's take a closer look at this. We go to school and we're told that we have to learn in order to get a good 9-5 job. We then go to work and realize that all of our time is spent between working, sleeping and coping with the stress of never feeling successful. My friends if this is the way the scholars have determined success to be then we have all failed at life.
How can we go to work and get paid while the government makes more money out of our income than we do, I find this simply comical and this is what we're forced to accept.
Do you think you need to ask; why is personal development important, because clearly we need to develop a new way of thinking. We don't need to become more educated to have a fulfilling life.
I know by saying that I may stir up some trouble but I don't care because it true. The most successful people who have ever lived and have achieved success higher than Mount Everest were not educated, most of which were high school drop outs.
I'm not bashing education but I'm bashing the educational system. I'm surely not saying that you should not get educated but I'm saying that the educational system doesn't hold the secret to success but you can become a successful tax payer. The more you earn for the time spent working the more taxes you must pay the government.
You need to develop the success traits of the wealthy and 99% of them will tell you it has to do with developing the power from within you and not cramming more words into your brain from text books.
If you learn how to control this power then you will surely find a way to be truly successful. Now sit down and ask yourself the question; why is personal development important to you?
Do you think you have an answer now? Do you think that you need to find ways to build multiple income streams to reach financial freedom; I'll tell you a secret, if you want to become really successful find ways to give true value to others. Find a way to help people enrich their lives and you will reach financial freedom at an astonishing rate.
Want to know how true this is? Look around you right now. Look at all the marvelous inventions around you today like the television, radio, light bulb, computer, cellular phones and I can go on forever.
These things ad value to your lives and if you get in touch with your inner genius through personal development, then you will realize how you to can add value to other peoples lives too.
I hope you can now answer the question; why is personal development important. Realize that if you don't seriously embark on developing yourself then you will be hindered by the way society have developed a strategy to keep you under it clutches as an employee and not an employer of success.
Meditate on what I've just said. The persons who may own the businesses for which you work are employers of success strategies. They're successful because they have embarked on learning the laws of success and millionaire mindset.
You are the employee of this success because their businesses run on autopilot through your efforts not theirs. While you're making your way to work they're making their way to the gym. Are you getting the bigger picture now?
It's time you become the employer of success and not the employee. That time is now. Never again should you ask the question; why is personal development important. It holds the answer to changing you entire life. Learn to develop the millionaire mindset today.
After I wrote this article I did some research to find a product or information that can help you unlock the power from within so you can live a more fulfilling life. I did find a very inexpensive but valuable product from an author by the name of Tony Mase.
Now let me tell you, his course is for a minor $49.00 but for a very limited time only.
Access to this powerful information for such a cheap price is totally outrageous. Get in on this course now and learn how you can become an employer of success.
Monday, February 25, 2008
Empowering To Learn And Improve
Begin by breathing, one breath at a time one day at a time. One in front of the other, slowly, painfully, heartbreakingly but surely, until you see that the light is at the end of a long tunnel. I'm getting somewhat nearer to the end of the tunnel but it's hard and it aches - a lot. No one prepared me for this. Nothing in my life till now comes close to the devastation that heartbreak causes to your psyche. It's only been four months and in some ways the pain is worse although dulled slightly. How do you begin to come to terms with betrayal so appalling you can't believe humans could behave like this?
How does someone with a good loving heart deserve such brutal treatment at the hands of the love of her life - the same man who declared such love only weeks before the breakup? No sense or reason - feelings of enormous loss, loneliness, mistrust, abject misery at times, a torrent of tears. I went from being with a man I honestly thought I was going to marry (he did propose in a fashion) to absolutely bereft & on my own - even his entire family have cut us like a cancer. Where does that come from?
A family I regarded as my second family - loved a lot. My teenage daughter also reeling at the loss of people she loved & respected. No real explanations that carry meaning - just platitudes about needing space, about financial stress... but we were in this together so anything was surmountable wasn't it? Obviously not! With this kind of heartbreak it's easy to slip into constant misery. Easy to want to go to sleep & never wake up - but not an answer for anyone. Least of all for loved family members who will feel helpless but incredibly sympathetic.
After just breathing & taking one day at a time, don't be afraid to talk until exhaustion - get it out into the open. Your family & close friends will understand - talk to them - tell them what you are feeling, cry, vent, yell, scream, walk, run, write a journal of your feelings but do something to alleviate some of the stress. Above all else don't buy into the belief that you are not worthy or that you are less because he or she abandoned you. It is their loss & their own personal demons that they will have to deal with. You are not less - just different & maybe ultimately much better. Don't judge yourself by what they have done to you (as difficult as that can be) but rather pick yourself up piece by piece & empower yourself to not only recover but discover purpose, drive & a better future.
I've done this for myself & some of the methods learned have helped me enormously. In fact they are beginning to carve out a whole new life path. One that promises healing as well as helping others do the same. You are not alone in your heartbreak. Unfortunately it's all too common & too painful. You think you are alone & in some ways only you can process the pain within yourself but you can get help.
Empowering yourself is so beneficial. Reading, learning, self help with the aid of online studies, home DVD courses, e-books, articles, reading stories of others' heartbreak only to realize you are not alone - that support is close by in the form of education, finding your inner passion & following it. Loved ones to help steer you through the shadows & out into the light of day. Listen to music - lots of it - some songs will help you cry, others to draw strength from & more to lift you up & succeed. Follow your hearts' desires when it comes to what excites you. Learn to love yourself again & then one day you will attract the partner who won't abandon you when times get tough - he or she will stand by you & you will be happy again. I know I will too - just not yet - more growing & learning to do. More people to touch, learn from & hopefully inspire as well.
Useful Emotions For Better Self Understanding
Anger is one of the most common emotions that surfaces when grief and loss have to be confronted. It is a normal human response if you feel abandoned, betrayed, disrespected or undeserving of the experience you are facing. It tells us we have to do something.
If you have been taught early in life that anger is a bad emotion or that only people with little or no self-control show their anger, it is quite likely that you will suppress or stuff this emotion deep inside. By keeping it within and sharing it with no one, you set yourself up to become depressed and may have to deal with the physical effects of another little understood emotion.
What can you do? How can you use your anger?
1. There is nothing wrong with becoming angry when dealing with loss and change. This is critical to understand for your mental health. And like any other emotion, it is wise to get to the bottom of your anger, pinpoint the source, and do every thing to resolve the problem. The key to defusing it is to try to understand why the situation developed. What is behind it all.
2. Resolving anger is in your best interests for a major reason: it takes a devastating toll on every cell in your body as well as your emotional disposition. For every thought and emotion we have the body has a physical counterpart. Your body will take the punishment of anger not only when you first deal with it-but each time you replay the anger-causing scene in your thoughts. That is extremely damaging.
3. Become aware that anger can be hidden or camouflaged in anxiety, sarcasm, jealousy, dependency, depression, withdrawal, fear, and feelings of frustration or abandonment. It is all about your ego. Become aware of whether or not you are repressing anger (consciously stuffing it within) or using it to cover up deeper fears or feelings.
4. Decide what you are specifically angry about. Find someone you trust to tell the specifics to and who will simply listen. Trying to resolve your anger is in your best interests and sharing it is one of the most therapeutic things you can do as you grieve. You are trying to clarify the specifics of your anger with your friend so you can do something about it. Make every effort to determine if you are holding on to your anger as a way to stay connected to the deceased.
5. Consider to what uses you can put your anger. Anger always has a purpose. Is it helping you understand your limits? Your desires? Your sadness? Your real friends? Your need for tolerance? Your deep love for the deceased? Allow anger to play a discovery role in your grief. Is it keeping you from accepting the death of your loved one? Take the time to think about the above questions as you choose to let go of your anger and use it to take advantage of creative ideas and insights.
6. Do something with anger. Staying angry and wanting revenge is resisting inevitable change. Resistance guarantees that anger will continue to persist and be problematical. Allow it to educate you and help cope with your loss. Then let it flow out.
Temporary fixes are to vent: exercise a release, shout, pound a pillow or tear something up. This helps but does not resolve anger. Find ways to channel your feelings into constructive action (perhaps so others might not be subject to what you are going through). You must take action to get at the specific cause and resolve it by obtaining the needed information, confronting the source, and/or forgiving.
7. Forgiveness is what will free you from the emotional and physical energy drain of anger. It is often difficult to muster, but it is the biggest gift you can give to yourself as you forgive the other. You are not condoning by forgiving, nor will it remove your anger immediately; it will take time for your heart to follow your head. However, your act of forgiveness will boost your health in the long run, reduce anxiety, and lift self-esteem.
To recap. Anger takes a deep physiological and emotional toll. Yet, it is a normal emotion when someone is deprived of what is valued. And, it camouflages other emotions. Above all, it tends to isolate a mourner from inner peace and the people who can help the most when grieving.
It takes courage and conviction to see your anger as a useful emotion that can lead you to better self-understanding. But you can choose to grow through your courageous decision to forgive. Keep in mind Gandhi's famous statement: "Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong."
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